Embrace your own beauty 101.

Beauty is different to everyone, it time to celebrate yours!

I have always struggled with how I thought about my beauty! I think especially in this age of social media it even worse. I wouldn’t want to grow up seeing these gorgeous looking teens in Instagram.

Where is their awkard phase!

Luckily I grew up before social media, but I still had pretty girls in my class that were wearing makeup in the 6th grade and looking gorgeous. In my house self care was non-existent, my mother did not care about looks at all!She really hide behind her weight and lack of self care as a way not to get hurt anymore, after suffering 2 devastating divorces. Because of my mom inability to forgive and get past her hurt. I grew up in not just a toxic beauty environment, but a toxic place to learn how to love myself. I’m just really embracing the ability to change the narrative I grew up with not just for myself but for my daughter.

Everything I say and do, Everything I don’t say or do has an effect on this little person. I must learn to better myself first. I must create a new legacy for me and my family!

My journey began with looking towards people to see how they cared and loved themselves. Some of my inspiration is of course Beyoncé her grace and beauty her strength and willingness to be vulnerable is everything I inspire to be. One of my favorite shows I go to when I’m feeling down or discourage is Queer eye on Netflix is so awesome and inspiring plus they give so many good tips to help anyone struggling with self love. Self care and self love is a daily struggle, it takes 90 days to make a lifestyle change. You have to show up daily for yourself or you wont be able to show up for anyone.

Do these things daily to celebrate and embrace your own special beauty!

1. Have gratitude!!!

Start simple. Being vague is okay, but to really get the most benefit from it you must be targeted in what you are truly thankful for!

Take what you don’t like about yourself and think about what life would be without that body part. Do you hate your eyes? Being thankful for the ability to see is nice, but vague. Be more pointed in your gratitude. The ability to see color is a true blessing. Just image a life in black and white, fashion, makeup, hair color none of that would matter as much. Jeffery star new blue blood and blood sugar palette would be just different shades of gray!

What I like to do in the morning before I do my makeup is pick out something and be thankful. It help put your mind in a good framework for the rest of the day. I also do this at night after my self-care is done with. I choose to be thankful for the same area, but I pick a different reason to be thankful. Be aware during the day of how you used that part during the day think about what you couldn’t have done if you didn’t have it.

2. Think of beauty as more then just skin deep.

I know this is such a common phrase in English but I don’t believe many really embrace it. Why do they? It is not something easily found, you can look at someone and instantly see physically beauty. while inner beauty takes time to manifest for the world to see sometimes days and weeks and even years for others to look at certain people and see inner beauty.

A hard fact too is some may never see your inner or outer beauty but that shouldn’t make it less to you!

When thinking about your inner beauty I find it best to first start by reflecting and writing about the day that you’ve had the choice you’ve made toward yourself and towards others. Think about who needs forgiving, who needs compassion and understanding. after I write the day down I like to then sit and be still and focus on forgiveness and compassion towards others even if it is vague it can still be helpful to just send healing compassion and forgiveness out into the universe.

Inner beauty to me is about having love and compassion for humanity. the only thing I can control in every situation is my actions and reactions to others. The deeper understanding and love I have for myself, is when I can really shine love and inner beauty to everyone.

3. If something has a fix then fix it!

I’m not saying go out and get plastic surgery. I’m saying take a hard look and ask if you’re doing everything you can do to best the best you can be!

For myself it not necessary my weight that troubles me. Before my daughter I was a lot more active. I worked so much and always moving on my job, on easy day did well over 6 miles. So for me it not about losing weight, it about wanting a healthier, fitter body. With a 1 year old it can be a challenge, to stop and take self care time to make myself feel better. I’m starting small I have three 30 day workouts I’m signed up for after that I will get a gym membership.

Again I’ll use the eye example just to keep it simple, maybe try some different color contacts and see how that feels, try different make-up or some awesome lashes. Take time to think is it really my eyes or something different. Another example if you hate your skin change your skin care routine, maybe even start one if that’s the case.

It about taking the power back and knowing you have control and the abilities to change your life.

I challenge you to grow and become so much more then just celebrating your beauty!

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